If there was a book on Life, it would be the world’s biggest seller!

This is my first blog, I am not a writer nor am I great with punctuations. With that being said I am writing this blog because I am at the point in my life that I want to not only better myself but as my passion in life is to help others I need to learn maybe to start with myself and remember that always helping others may hurt me in the process. I need to learn when to say yes and when to say no.  I have learned who my true friends are and who are just my acquaintances. The sad thing is when you give your heart because that is the person you are and have always been, it is taken and stomped on by your friends or should I say your so called friends.  There are so many books in today’s world the sad truth is there is none on Life. If there were a book on Life, the true ways of Life; the how to do and be the best at Life it would be the world’s biggest seller!  Am I right? I have had my highs and my lows in life, however knowing I have my family and God by my side I am blessed. Tonight I reflected on a past friend I have or should I really call them an acquaintance? They had some major lows in their life and we were there for them as a family/friend should be. We loved them as family and offered our love and support. I always sent messages asking how this person was and reminded them we were here and not to hesitate if they needed anything. Even if I had to give my last dollar I would have, believe me I have given my last dollar more than one occasion!!  As time went on we still kept in contact, I visited with them at other friends homes and they were friendly as always. But over the past year I definitely have noticed a huge change in my so-called friend. I have noticed that almost every time I message them on their Facebook page or text them they never reply! But when they see me in person they act as if nothing has ever changed and we are still the best of friends. Well honestly I guess I have a huge heart and maybe it is easily broken but I am upset about the whole situation. What kind of friend doesn’t respond to any kind of messages but acts like your friend to your face?  Well I have come to the realization that I just need to let it go and move on.  As much as it hurts to move forward that is what I am going to do. I should not have to ask them why they do not reply to my messages because if they were a true friend they would have! January 2014 I had some major health scares and the doctors were mentioning bone marrow biopsy’s and oncologist. Both of those two words equal having a mental break down and thinking my life was over. I was beyond scared and the not knowing was the worst. I can say as of today 9/29/14 I am still somewhat at a standstill with my health and as of right now it is a waiting game. But when I needed my so-called friends, most of the so-called close friends I have honestly didn’t even ask if there was anything they could do or help me with. And it wasn’t as if I would have said yes I want something, knowing me I would have probably just said prayers are all that are needed.  But I feel that had that at least offered that would have made me feel cared about. Don’t get me wrong, I had several friends as well as Facebook friends call, text and offer their prayers and I was and am forever grateful!! If I had that book (Life) you know the worlds best seller, Id know the answer as to what I should do. But no book exists.  The best thing I can think of is talking to someone older and wiser that has been there and done that. So as for my first blog this is what was weighing heavy on my heart and mind tonight.  Until next time ❤ Me

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  1. Dear Heather,

    I tried commenting on my phone. But that was just too small. If you have already received this, I apologize.

    I know exactly what you are talking about. I’ve had “friends” who will walk right by without speaking. But if it serves their purpose will act like they couldn’t live without me.

    I’ve learned to move on. I’ve left toxic work situations because I knew they were not good for me emotionally. What bothers me the most is that these “friends” call themselves Catholic Christians.
    Some times I wonder how peacefully they sleep at night!!

    Would Jesus treat His friends like this? Would Jesus treat His enemies like this? The answer is NO.
    I knew I needed to get this severe dislike of certain people under control. It took a lot of time & prayer.
    I have forgiven these “friends”. And I pray for them, hoping that they get the same place in heaven that I hope I do.

    I learned that unless I forgive them, I am not free “For Giving” of myself to others in need. The past is over and can never be changed, the future is unknown. Live in the present because God gave it to us as a gift.

    In all things, Trust In God! He is the Way.

    Peace & Blessings,
    Jane

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    • Well said Jane! You are so right and as bad as it will hurt me to do so I have already done so. The last time I saw this person I said I will no longer go out of my way to be friendly and speak. Not that I do not want to be friendly but what is the point when there is no reply from them. I know that may sound rude because I grew up treating others the way I’d want to be treated and be the better person as well as kindness kills. But I stood my ground and didn’t bother to speak to them first. But after I felt it was the second time they saw me at our friends home they decided to speak to me. I replied to their acknowledgement and kept on going. I felt hurt as well as good that I didn’t break and speak first. Another one of Life’s lessons

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  2. Isn’t it funny how different everyone’s perspective of LIFE is?
    I too have been in the exact same situation and can relate 1000%.
    I was injured in a car accident July 2nd and at that moment literally became invisible to all llllllll my long term friends!
    No one called to ask how my daughter and I were ESPECIALLY the same people I dropped everything n ran to, literally gave my last dollars to and constantly supported their families distress!
    None of them!
    Very enlighten blog Heather, but unfortunately this is the world we live in, ALL OF US!
    Sadly you can’t turn back time so you learn to work on you and that is all you can do!
    My theory on “Life” is captured in perspective! Life is what you make it!

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    • Sad thing is when you wonder what has changed for the other to act the way they do. I know they have dealt with more than you or I have ever dealt with and more then most people in their life time. But you and I know we have been in some crazy stuff but we each know how to pick up a phone, text and or call. When you’ve been In this persons life for years how in the world does it just change. I don’t get it but hey maybe that is there way of dealing with their problems. 😦

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  4. Great first blog Heather. I will look forward to more of your thoughts. You can’t change other people and their attitudes. Only you can change how you feel toward their actions and move on from there. Don’t Change yourself, if you always said hello, say hello. I feel, by not acknowledging them, you are doing the same as them and that is not the true you. A quick hi and bye is sufficient. No need for extended conversations. And, it would be rude of me not to ask… How are you doing??? Hope each day is better.

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